Remind them that something benefits them, & if it also benefits me, leave that part out of the conversation. One very nice lady at my local Department of Aging gave me very wise advice- always make it about them. If possible, find out where your parents keep their financial records, bank statements & the like in case they are needed. Your local Department of Aging is a wealth of resources as is the Veteran’s Administration if one or both parents were in the military. Start looking into options early in the diagnosis, before things get bad.
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It may be too difficult on you emotionally & physically to be a full time caregiver. However, if you can show them that their actions aren’t getting the desired result, you have a better chance of dealing with them.Ĭhances are, you are going to need someone to help in your narcissistic parent’s care.
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Normal boundary setting won’t work anymore, because they won’t remember what you said as their memories fade or know how to react. Around the time of his dementia diagnosis though, he defaulted back to his old ways.įrom what I’ve read, the best way to deal with this frustrating & painful situation is to treat them as if you’re dealing with a spoiled child. My husband even enjoyed spending time with him for the first time. Then suddenly he changed- for a while, he softened up a great deal. My husband’s father? He was always the overt narcissist. The last few years, my father has changed- he is no longer a covert narcissist, but quite overt. My heart sank as I read it, but it did make sense to me.Īlzheimer’s comes on very slowly, & can develop for even years prior to receiving a diagnosis. Recently, I read that if a person has Narcissistic Personality Disorder prior to the diagnosis of dementia or Alzheimer’s, it will get worse as the disease progresses. Since both of us have very dysfunctional, narcissistic parents, it probably will be even worse than the average case.
My husband & I are both afraid of what the future holds, since these diagnoses are very painful for the victim as well as his family even under the best of circumstances.
(Thank you to everyone who has offered their prayers & support- I appreciate that more than I can say!) Also, my husband’s father was diagnosed with dementia last year. As many of you know, my father received a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s in late July.